The "D" Word!!

I was so shocked to learn that some of my friends and/or aquaintances are getting Divorced! I always look to my in laws as an example of a long lasting love and marriage, I have asked them their secret cause they've been married for 28 years almost 29 and they seem to be very happy!And all they really say is to respect one another, and I think I finally know what they mean by that. Our generation is seriously screwed up and we're not even aware of it! I myself try to be a good wife and think I am a good one but I truly am not a great wife! What great wife still considers ex-boyfriends "friends"? What great wife talks to old friends that maybe at one point feelings were exchanged? I dont hide anything from my husband he knows who i talk to and what we talk about. He has all of the passwords to my emails and webpages but just talking to these people is disrespectful! My mother-in-law says you have to put your marriage into a bubble and not to let anything harmful into that bubble. You just worry about your spouse and his/her needs and in return your spouse will do the same <~~ She is a wise woman!! My marriage has had it's ups and downs and the downs were rough almost earth shattering but we got through them but apparently I didnt learn enough from those moments. Trust is a huge deal breaker, because if you dont trust your spouse life itself is miserable (I know this from personal experience) Communicating is harder than it sounds... and in reality making love last is the hardest job anyone can have it doesnt just come as easily as it did before marriage! I felt sadness to learn those marriages were falling apart. it makes me put my marriage into persepective. What would happen If Mario and I just couldnt make things work anymore? My heart would break for my son, he would be the one who suffers. I need to take a"Big Picture" look at my choices and see if they are worth losing the love of my life and hurting my son who is my world..... Nothing is worth that!